How to Express Gratefulness in Non Violent Communication

She said, what do you want me to say? I need to hear three things. First of all, what did i do that made life so wonderful for you? She thought for a moment and said, you're so intelligent. No, i said, that's still a diagnosis of me. It doesn't really tell me what i did. Oh, she says, i got i think i understand. Now i'd like to suggest how to receive gratitude in non violent communication. And we find in every country how hard it is for people to receive gratitude because their prior training has taught them that you should be humble, you shouldn't think you're anything.