When to Give Feedback to an Asshole?

"I've never seen a situation where somebody is slipping into a form of being an asshole and they come out of it without somebody grabbing their attention," he says. "The thing to do is not to stand over the person and point and laugh ... you need to get your stuff together, right? That's not the point that that's not helpful." He adds: "You kind of just dissipate any sort of fear or anxiety because you don't want to put this person in a position to be anxious"