Do You Think You Lost Your Anchors?

I find that concept of anchors so interesting would you say that having so in the periods between your father's diagnosis and his death was a help during that time. I'm intrigued because you come from a Muslim Bangladeshi background where traditionally you know your anchors will be marriage and kids and of course you've got those things but you married relatively late in your late 30s compared to possibly more traditional members of the community. Do you think that you found those anchors in your friends or elsewhere beforehand? You can have loads and loads of you know good friends and not any family and so the friends compensate not having any family for instance, she says.