Women Communicate to Communicate in a Communication Style

Tender defender is applying thinner defender to conversations about things where you can't even directly defend her but you can defend her sort of in spirit and after the fact emotionally she wants you to instinctively take her side. Men or rational women are ruled by emotion that it's just empirically not true we're both ruled by emotion and rationalization rational thought is kind of slapped on at the end so like by empathizing with her and just emotionally defending her but then helping her think the argument after she got that support I was both tender and defender.