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“Patience isn’t something you do—it’s what’s left over when your system isn’t defending itself,” says Mike Salemi, host of The King Within podcast, who returns for a powerful solo episode dedicated to fathers striving for more presence and patience at home. Drawing from his own journey and years spent coaching men who “seem to have it all, yet feel like they're losing what matters most,” Mike Salemi unpacks the myth that patience is a quality we can simply will into existence. Instead, he reveals it's the natural outcome of nervous system regulation, self-awareness, and the stories we tell ourselves about control, vulnerability, and safety.

In this episode, Mike Salemi explains why so many men lose composure with their families—especially after performing well at work—and how deeper issues of self-protection and core beliefs about power and weakness can sabotage our relationships. He shares actionable tools rooted in nervous system regulation, story work, and presence, inviting listeners to rewire old patterns and step into true leadership at home.

Tune in to The King Within for a breakthrough conversation that will give you practical steps to transform frustration into connection—and start building the family life you truly desire.

5 Key Takeaways

Presence is everything—put your feet on the ground, breathe, and choose to be fully present with your family every day.
Train your nervous system—recognize when you’re on edge and use breathwork or a mindful pause to return to calm before you react.
Interrogate your reactions—when anger rises, ask yourself, “What is this trying to protect me from?” and get curious, not judgmental.
Revisit memories of ease—recall times you felt safe and relaxed, and practice returning to that state to teach your body it’s okay to soften.
Express, don’t suppress—write out your triggers, fears, and costs in a journal to release tension and gain clarity before it spills over at home.

Memorable Quotes

"Patience isn't something that you do; it's what's left over when your system isn't defending itself."

"You're teaching yourself how to lead your nervous system and your family in a completely new way, but it takes time and takes reps."

"Courage, curiosity, and commitment—that's what this work really requires if you want to go deep within yourself and really change the patterns you're not proud of, and step into more of the man you're looking to become."

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