Is Your Sexual Development a Mismatch Between the Ethos and the Experience?

When you look back do you think you would have been in a better position if you had more data about what people were doing and how they were thinking about sex as you went into it? Do you think that your developmental journey was really catalyzed by the mismatch between the ethos you approached it with and what you encountered that that tension created it like an engine for growth. It's yeah I mean well so there's yes to all those right like of course it would have been different and there was this pros and cons to each it's kind of like a choose your own adventure right. And my development is weird you know most people I know encountered something they figured it out or they thought about it