Teaching Emotional Competence During Upset and Calm Times

There are two times that we can work on building emotional competence, during times of upset and during times of calm. In a book, you can stop in the middle of reading and ask your child, what do you think she's feeling right now? I will actually pause a show in the middle to have a quick conversation about the character. Through books and television and movies,. You can help them identify which body parts give them their first warning that they are becoming angry or frustrated or upset or jealous. When they can identify the body part, it can help them be better able to control the emotion. And you might want to talk to your kids about your signs and your body that you get.