The Value of Gentleness

Sometimes we have to do hard things to get healthy. I think sometimes the person who's triggered is doing that as a defense mechanism against having to do work that they need to be doing. Toughness is never the right tool for the job. And so I think that there is value in being gentle. But it's not whether or not we need gentleness or toughness. We actually need to develop discretion for when, when the tool is the righttool for theJob.