How to Help Your Kids Form Healthy and Secure Attachments

Episode Highlights With Adam

• His own story of attachment issues as a child and how he got into this work as an adult
• What is attachment theory and how attachment styles impact relationships
• How attachment styles can shift throughout life and in different phases of life
• Why having kids can change the attachment styles of the parents
• Anxious attachment can sometimes stem from not getting enough oxytocin in childhood and how this can lead to seeking partners who are avoidant in relationships
• Steps to shifting from anxious or avoidant attachment patterns to healthier patterns 
• How parents can help create strong attachment styles in their children
• The importance of context in understanding attachment styles
• Curiosity not judgment in relationships
• How to build a self-correcting family system to benefit your kids
• Ways to help your kids communicate with you with non-judgment and curiosity 
• Men adapt to problems and change for circumstances, not for relationships
• Women constantly adapt and iterate within relationships
• Why men are more stressed and depressed in today’s world and some factors that can help
• Men only change for circumstances and why this is important to understand in relationships
• Three pieces of life advice: 65% of adults have an attachment issue, attachment issues bring the most relationship issues, you can absolutely change it and you just have to understand the steps 

Resources We Mention

• Adam Lane Smith - Website
• Attachment Bootcamp Video Course - Use code Katie for a discount
• Exhausted Wives, Bewildered Husbands: Why your marriage is hurting, and how to blossom as a couple by Adam Smith
• No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life by Robert A. Glover