I'm a Damn Fool Like Everyone Else

You have to balance judgment with mercy and with the possibility of development. What's the most heartwarming experience you've had with a person impacted by your words? Oh, man. It's actually one of the advantages of the doctrine of original sin. You're not obligated to beat yourself to death for it. So let yourself off the hook when you've learned your lesson. Otherwise you just accrue your errors and that will crush you.