How Do I Bring the Fuck Back Out of My Husband?

The couple has been married for two years. The sex is still good, but not as frequent and not as freaky. Sometimes a fellok was bamboozled into believing this man was about that life,. And apparently he isn't. So how do i bring the freak back out of my husband? Do i smack the shit out of him and tell him to get into the bedroom and let me suck the skin off his toll ar? I just want him to grab me by the throat and tell me what he wants. But he's a nurdy white guye, and i'm a confident black woman. It doesn't matter if these even matters. We're all in this together