Speaker 1
Like, oh, okay, that initial, maybe the challenge of starting something new is die down a bit because I've been pouncing around, playing about, messing about, you know, whoever you want to call it, doing nothing to start with for 45 minutes. And now I've got 15 minutes left. And what happened in that time? Well, I would then say, hang on a minute, I've worked all day to get this hour. I've worked all day to get this hour and then we'll have in this hour. And then I would have it. And now all of a sudden the agreement that I would have had with Anna is, you know, maybe we were going out, maybe we're going to watch a film, something along those lines, I'm rocking up 45 minutes late for that. And so straight away there's a friction that's going to happen there. And it's natural, of course. I've broken trust. I've let Anna down. And maybe this happens to you as well with your significant other. You've let the person down. It creates some friction. Maybe there's a little bit of, you know, some ill feeling or some ill words. And then what I used to do is be like, well, now Anna is trying to control me. This was my free time. This was my hour in the studio. Don't tell me what to do. That kind of mindset. And yet what was really happening was I was letting the world around me determine my actions. So I'm saying, don't tell me what to do. But actually I'm saying to the world, tell me what to do. What a strange way to operate. But it's so easy to get caught up with where it's everyone else to blame. And it's not me. But if we invite people to design our lives, then, you know, don't be, don't be surprised when they do at the end of the day. And then it's so easy for us to then project that onto someone else and say that they're doing it. And so you can see that when that happens, that then spills over. Someone won't trust that you're going to be an hour next time. Maybe there's a little bit of niggle before you even go in the studio. Now I'm not in the right frame of mind.