Were You ‘Too Much’ — Or Just Misunderstood? ADHD, Trauma & Finding Your True Self
ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast
The SAVE Method for self-coregulation
Miranda outlines the four-step SAVE method (See, Allow, Validate, Embrace) plus Engage, for internal regulation.
What if the labels you’ve carried throughout your life didn't have to define your story?
In this week’s episode of the ADHD Women’s Wellbeing Podcast, I’m joined by Miranda Arieh, a multi-award-winning motivational speaker, mental health educator, and transformation coach. Miranda is the founder of the pioneering HEROES Programme and an advocate for changing how we view mental health, neurodiversity and emotional regulation.
Miranda uses her lived experience to fuel her passion for helping others make lasting transformations to their lives by learning how to effectively work with all our human experiences of emotional suffering.
This conversation is an invitation to look back at your past through a lens of neurodivergence—not to find "fault," but to find the compassion and forgiveness needed to move forward.
In this episode, we explore:
- How turning anger into passion can shift the narrative around emotional dysregulation and neurodivergence.
- What "trauma-informed care" actually looks like in practice and why it’s vital for the ND community.
- Miranda’s perspective on how high-masking ADHD and autism intersect with complex childhood trauma.
- Why Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) feels different in a neurodivergent nervous system and why "not everyone feels it" the same way.
- The cost of masking for safety, the pain of forgetting your true self, and the beauty of rediscovery.
- Learning the importance of coregulating with ourselves to find internal stability.
- How a formal diagnosis can be the "missing piece" that provides clarity and self-acceptance.
- The SAVE Method - a practical strategy for regulating emotions and practising effective self-advocacy.
- How to create healthy boundaries and space for the right people without abandoning yourself in the process.
This episode is a vital reminder that your emotional experiences are valid, and by understanding the "why" behind your brain and your history, lasting transformation becomes possible.
Timestamps
- 02:15 - Exploring Trauma and Neurodivergence
- 15:00 - Understanding Rejection Sensitivity in Neurodivergence
- 33:37 - The Journey to Authenticity
- 40:53 - Navigating Relationships with Others and Self
- 44:36 - Introduction to the SAVE Method
This week’s episode is sponsored by Understood.org, the leading nonprofit dedicated to empowering the millions of people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you’re parenting a neurodivergent child, I’d recommend listening to their podcast, Everybody Gets a Juicebox, as it’s full of relatable stories and practical tools to help your family thrive while protecting your own wellbeing, too!
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- Kate Moryoussef on post-diagnosis growth and her gentle framework for what comes next
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- Hannah Miller on reconnecting with purpose through a neurodivergent lens
- Adele Wimsett myth-busting on hormones, HRT, progesterone and perimenopause
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Inside the More Yourself Membership, you’ll be able to:
- Connect with like-minded women who understand you
- Learn from guest experts and practical tools
- Receive compassionate prompts & gentle reminders
- Enjoy voice-note encouragement from Kate
- Join flexible meet-ups and mentoring sessions
- Access on-demand workshops and quarterly guest expert sessions
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Links and Resources:
- Find my popular ADHD workshops and resources on my website [here].
- Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_pod
- Visit Miranda's website (www.mirandaarieh.co.uk) or find her on social media @mirandaarieh.
- Miranda runs a free monthly webinar teaching the HEROES Approach to trauma recovery and guiding listeners through the SAVE Method. Sign up for the mailing list and webinar here.
Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity and clarity.
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