Our reading skills are generally pretty poor, but there are things we can do to make the other person more readable. The better way to try and read others understand what's going along with them is to focus less on trying use our reading scales. And i talk about a number of methods for that in the book. But first and foremost, we need to think more about contect if you're just having a cup of coffee with somebody,. There's not much there. Verses like, you know what? If you're playing basketball with them, you're going to see how they make decisions. So it's like seeing how some one inter acts with their significant other, with their kids,