An alcoholic is defined as someone basically where they can't stop once they start. Excessive drinking is considered 13 or more drinks a week. If you have three glasses of wine every night, which would be splitting a bottle of wine with your friend, your husband, whatever, you fall in that category. You need an adventure, man. You need to get out there and have something to do and something worth waking up for. That's the substitute for the addiction. Most of the things that we do that are addictions are to numb out our anxiety,. The fear that I won't have fun, I won't be interesting," he says.