What Helps Us Not Take It So Personally?

The self is built up overtime, and almost like am less of a thing and more like a process. We absorb elements from the environment that become incorporated in this thing that we think of as me. But they actually didn't start out as me, and they kind of got consumed or integrated in this way. i think the societal conditionng that lends us towards comparison,. lends us towards fear, lends us towards a separation and the suffering that follows are all part of it. It's not our fault. And yet it's not. Until we can admit, oh, here's how it's happening, we don't have a chance of going beyond it and really feeling our artogetherness.