The sense of self, it's like it controls things. Like once you build it strong enough, then it has full control of you. And when the self observes someone do something which they're not, it wants to defend itself because it doesn't want to go away. So that's why everyone gets so up in arms. When we try and be someone who we're not, in order for them to validate them as themselves who they've defined, they have to attack when we try change. Because if we change, that means that they should change or there's a possibility they could change. It really operates the same way. Like when you really push this thing, it starts screaming at