Introduction

The definition of an unsafe relationship is a relationship with somebody who cannot take us as part of themselves, so as to take our best interests as part of their own best interests. It's essentially a lack of attunement and a lack of love. Most people are confused about what love is, because they associate love with just feeling so positive towards someone. But feeling that positively towards something is actually a byproduct of love. To love is to take something as part of yourself. And most often when we do this, it's natural that we feel positive towards that thing.