We learn our self dialogue from what we are explicitly told. We're conditioned to say these things to ourselves, and then we start saying them to ourselves. So it may seem kind of weird, but the inner the voice of our parents that we internalize can be one of two things. It can either be the actual voice of our parent or a more distant source such as an abusive household. What can happen actually is when i'm actually still with the people, the inner critical voice is actually what your parents don't say. It's what's left unsaid that you fill in the gaps. And so it's not actually what they've conditioned you. In weird way, is sort of