i love when some one says to me, ham, feeling but vulnerable to day i'm checking in dalda. And other people can feel like, ah, could we not just like gagesh and it's not that deep? No, not a teachable moment. Oh, no, yesn i love that. Maybe it's finding someone who can use that even language to say, i need, i need those declarations. Thi this ties into so much of what we've already talked about. Believe it or not, obviously christmas, and one christmas can mean different people. But also, like the joke thing, like, to me, knowing people is really difficult