The Power of Feeling Needed

When we have an attitude of sort of fixing, healing and helping people it can lead to unhealthy partners. We are trying to make ourselves the solution to a problem that we didn't actually create in the first place. Most close interpersonal relationships cannot survive dynamics where one party is the rescuer as such and the other is the victim. If you feel bad after you help or support, then it's not help or support. This is a call to check in with you about your motivations and either communicate directly with the person in question so that you are both clear on needs and expectations. Or you need to revise your motivations or not continue helping and supporting.