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FEARLESS with Daniele Bolelli

Duncan Trussell Family Hour

CHAPTER

The Importance of Anger in Life

"I do have a couple of anger issues, you may say. So there's always that doesn't take much to set me off," he says. "When she was two or three or she would throw little tantrum or she would cry for no reason." Most anger is based on the idea that some state that is happening temporarily will continue forever,. And so the anger comes because I think if I don't do something about this now for the rest of my life, I'll be experiencing this bull****.

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Speaker 2
Yeah, that's one of the themes that actually does pop up in the book. Well, it actually shows up in many moments, but there's the one that I care the most about is where I've noticed with my daughter, like when you can safely say that I've had, you know, because of everything that's in my life, I do have a couple of anger issues, you may say. So there's always that doesn't take much to set me off. I mean, I'm not going to go crazy. I'm not going to, but I raise my voice and show some anger. And you know, with a little kid, you cannot do that shit around them all the time. You know, you can't be like, I would see like she's not as much now because she's older, but when she was two or three or she would throw little tantrum or she would cry for no reason. And suddenly I'm all pissed off and dangry and then I see just fear in these little kid's eyes because she had just seen a monster and the monster is me. And I'm like, what the fuck? That's now why I want to be. That's, I mean, I understand that's what I'm feeling right now because I'm frustrated. I haven't slept. I'm tired. I'm whatever the hell, but that does not justify me just unleashing all my frustration and all my bullshit on some poor child that just fucked up. It doesn't mean if it's honest or not, it's still fucked up. Like at this point is, yeah, this is where I'm at and I should recognize it, but I should also take some steps to change it because that's not, that's just not a cool way to live. I don't want to live that way. I don't want to be that person.
Speaker 1
And that person, I've noticed that my, when I get really fucking angry, 90% of the time, the anger is not justified anger. But it's based on the idea that some state that is happening temporarily will continue forever. And so the anger comes because I think if I don't do something about this now for the rest of my life, I'll be experiencing this bullshit. So I got to fight. But the truth of the matter is most of the time, whatever the situation that you're in, happens to be, it's temporary. It's not going to last. You're not generally, you're not in prison. You're not stuck generally. Whoever you're around who's being an asshole, they won't be an asshole in two days. They'll be back to normal. And when you start realizing that, then it becomes a game of holding your tongue and just waiting. And things do tend to get better. I'm not talking about ignoring or denial. But when you really look at most anger issues, at least for me, I don't know if it's the same for you. Usually it's you think this situation is permanent. And it's not. And that feeling of permanence is what makes so much suffering happen. Yeah, absolutely.

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