Shama means seishnottu. Ability to forbear, the behavior of others and mental toughness. The psychologist Albert Bandura called it self-efficacy. This spiritual, this toughness also the ability to forgive other people for their actual or imagined wrongs which they have done. Most people don't hold ill will against you. But it's no good storing up hurts. To forgive and let go. And move ahead in life.