The One Where I Talk To Clarity Coach, Keltie Maguire
Thrive Solo
Are You Child Free?
Keltie Knightley is a writer, blogger and mother of one. She has been child free since she was in her early thirties. "I think the assumption was there i would have kids because that was what i saw virtually every other woman in my life doing," says Knightley.
In this week’s episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to clarity coach and former jewellery designer, Keltie Maguire.
Keltie is a Clarity Coach who helps small business owners and professionals get clear on what they really want in business and life, and ultimately, create the existence they crave. As a Canadian expat living in Munich, Germany, Keltie is an avid hiker, craft beer lover, and travel enthusiast who is all about creating a life by design, rather than default.
In this conversation, Keltie and I talk about all sorts of things around being childfree or childless, whichever of those terms you resonate with the most, including: how, for years, she always assumed that children were somewhere in her future but how she continually pushed the idea of them into the background; the conversations she had with her husband around whether or not they would have kids and how they were both ‘wishy washy’ around the subject; and how she decided to stop worrying about the baby factor until she turned 35.
We also discuss how moving to Germany was the catalyst that drove Keltie to make a decision as to whether or not she wanted to have a baby; the huge amount of confusion that comes with not being clear one way or another; the things that people say such as “You’ll regret it if you don’t have kids”; and how making the conscious decision that she will have a good life, whether or not she has children in the future, has brought Keltie peace and removed much of her confusion.
Keltie and I also explore the idea that we all have a choice in terms of what we focus on in life, and how important it is to choose to embrace the benefits of being childfree; how none of us are immune to the underlying narratives around the expectation on women that they will have children; how women who don’t have children are sometimes portrayed as being ‘unnatural’, as though becoming a mother ‘completes’ our womanliness; and we also touch on the highly sensitive topic of women who regret having kids.
And finally, Keltie tells me her thoughts around the concept of the ‘biological clock’; how turning 40 brought her some relief with regards her decision to not have children; and how she almost didn’t get married because she has always taken issue with the fact that marriage is perceived as necessary to ‘validate’ a relationship.
Follow Keltie on Instagram: @keltiemaguire
Follow Keltie on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keltiemaguire/
Washington Post article from 1978 that coined the phrase ‘biological clock’:
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