Are There Any Research Out There About What a Man Should Do if He Has an Affair?

The first step is admittingtat you are having an affair, or that you have had an affair. The research says you need to confes t your wife, even if she doesn't catch you. I got a letter from a guy who wanted to stop having an affair. And he felt like he just couldn't do it without his wife knowing. But when he talked to a therapist about this, he really agonized about this and wrote to me.