You can play the game, but know that it's not about the game. Write out the message that you need to send to someone, or even write out the script. One of the things that people are most scared about as public speaking is going up and cold approaching a girl solo in a bar. We feel like giving a talk on stage, or in front of a work group of ten people in a conference room feels like being chased down by a tiger. But just transcending your programming through remembering that the stakes are nowhere near as high as you think they are, there you go. Ou're unbeatable. You're literally invincible. Ou're immune to anything.