Oh,

yeah,

I think so Do you feel like well? I guess it seems like you guys are not under the impression that you have to invite someone that invited you I think you breathe well, it depends like I said time and Yeah circumstances when you get married I feel like if you don't want to invite your entire high school friend group, I don't that's fair Yeah, that's fair. I talk to any of them. I talk to like two of them So it'd be weird if you only invited him because he invited you to And I didn't invite anyone who

had the two people you talked to I

wouldn't mind it being there. Like he's a great guy super fun. It's just that My I think my rule when I do come up with like a list of people to invite it'll be

If you have

an initiated a text or a call In the past five years, you're not getting invited or maybe even the past three years Depends on it's where I am in life. Yeah, I feel like how big of a wedding like that will be my cutoff Like if that person had not initiated a conversation with me in the past like several years Then like I don't think we're close enough to justify having you at my wedding It does fair It's really interesting because I think in Asian culture, maybe this is pan cultural But um when it comes to wedding invites, especially if your parents are helping you pay There's an expectation that your parents are allowed to also invite guests that you wouldn't have otherwise invited like their friends Do you think mom and dad would invite a lot of their family friends to our wedding I They actually don't strike me as they don't strike us me as the type that would yeah Because if they did they would have to invite like the entire church which absolutely not happening. Yeah Um, there's not like do you think we would out of courtesy for mom and dad like having a good time invite some of their friends though Like their friends who have children that are our ages that we might not be super That's no they're oh that we're not super close to yeah interesting I would I think mom and dad are friends with enough of my friend's parents where if I invite Invite my friends and their parents they would have like a social circle to hang out with Wow, that'd be a crazy Not large but like man Because if you invite friends that's another plus two plus their plus one That's like four people per like friend if you invite their parents to not for everybody's parents, but Like those those spots feel quick or or just like immediate like relatives like aunts and uncles They don't know yet. We don't really need to invite Their friends because the yeah the idea is when parents invite their friends It's like they had a hand in like raising you. They're like the people who are like Oh, I remember when you were this young like I changed your diapers and now they feel like they could be at your wedding Oh, wouldn't you just invite them yourself then but like you're not like would you the only experience that you have with them was when you were a baby Like oh you never stay close with them afterwards, but they're your parents extended family I would I mean how is how extended is extended like one degree like yeah immediately related to mom and dad Mm-hmm. But I mean our uncle who lives in the u.s. It had a huge answer. I mean, yes. He's obviously I assume you can't yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think any of our family in the u.s. Yeah would be invited Would you have a wedding in the u.s. And then also a wedding in china? I feel like maybe or a ceremony of some sort. I feel like a grandparents would yeah This is with the assumption that you're is this what the assumption that your partner is also no I don't think I think regardless I wouldn't have like a wedding but I'd like like to fly back with my then spouse to china to see you in I know and The rest of the jenjads win or maybe they'll be like don't come until you have a child Uh yeah, I don't for some more context I

Called my

grandparents last night and heard the only thing that they said to me Was you need to extend your family? Chenja I think that's what they extend. I think Chenja is more like just established. Oh, is that what okay? Yeah,

yeah,

um And I was like, okay, can you help me find somebody then it's not easy out here in the u.s I love that they're also they're splitting the responsibility between me and you now know, it's not just me They seem to get an old and they're like, did they say anything to you

Rachel? No, I'm so young

I'm still in college. Well, yeah, but I think grandma probably got married around. Yeah, but that was a different time I still live that time such a different time. I think they understand how culture has changed really I know I mean the thing is it's not Even in this culture getting married in mid to late 20s is not Abnormal like our friends are getting married. Yeah Mid to late. Yes. Mid to late for sure. That's where Rachel's early 20s. Yeah, which is why they're not Oh, I say I say okay. Yeah, I know I love it. I love that I don't get any of this. They're just like, oh, you've grown up so wow you like so pretty now. I'm just like, oh, thank you Wow, why don't I get any positive? I'll get that anymore. They're like you're getting old in the crepit Have a child. I love

calling

me and then I Yeah

Oh my gosh,

but dad

was like showing me or I guess Nine I was holding the camera.