Jocko: Listening is the most underrated skill in leadership and I was thinking about a good way to explain listening because listening doesn't just mean be quiet. Take a step back relax look around take a breath Get detached and then put the emotions into your calculus as you're making decisions, he says. Jocko also talks about detachment which is very powerful not just forachment but for life and definitely for leadership. He concludes by saying that one of the biggest Obstacles to truly being an effective leader is having a big giant ego.