The Model Is Not for You to Abate or for Me to Abdicate Responsibility for Our Behavior

The model is not intended to abdicate responsibility for our behavior. When i'm operating at my best, but when i'm using the model correctly, then i use the model to clean up how i want to feel. And that makes me more open to other people's opinions and thoughts and ideas about who i should be in the world. K, it doesn't mean i'm willing to comply with them. It may not. But  the better i get at the model, because, remember, i also use themodel to love myself better,. Then if i'm loving myself and somebody comes along to say, i don't really like when you do this thing or say that thing