What's Your Real Long Term Self?

I think I can try to learn to trust myself a little bit. The like, let me call everybody and see it. That's my real self as my therapist would say. How does that real self get scared off? What are the factors that make that real self less secure or kind of disappear? Like comparing myself to what everyone else in the world is doing,. Trying to figure out how do I make the thing that makes everyone happy? And I know there's actually nothing that's going to make everyone happy.