The Consensual BDSM Defense

When we first met you were working in an office right yeah okay. We don't approach kink with the same uh like rigor like we do in that if it's brand new to us you're not doing a damn thing until you've researched it. Very rarely do we sit down for a very structured conversation to do like a checklist or do a back and forth. In the shorthand that happens in long-term relationships i can conceivably see it going wrong because you think well i don't have to ask all the questions that's incorrectYou definitely do umYeah but i feel like the thing that struck me when i first read this original story was like Damn somebody was able to use consensual