The Power of Shame

"When shame goes away, you start to heal and integrate. You start to be a whole person instead of a good person," she says. "We were taught this universal lie. We were taught it by our grandparents, by our parents, by our brothers, by our sisters, by our teachers and friends." 'It's the same lie that we tell when we say that good babies are good when they don't cry very much or they don't fuss a lot,' he adds.