The guest culture one has to be like really ambiguous. Just tell me that you wanted to order Chinese food. Come on, man. How much is it solvable by badges? Can we just wear badges that won't tell what we are? Is that possible? I would like please society. Yeah. So preparing for this podcast episode, I was talking to my girlfriend about ask versus guest culture. And during that conversation, we've realized that there was something I was trying to communicate to her via guest culture that she totally had no idea was me attempting to communicate. Oh, shit, I should be using more ass culture.
Read the full transcript here.
How straightforwardly should we communicate our preferences to others? How many times does a person need to say "yes" relative to the number of times they say "no" so that a relationship can be maintained? Most people probably use a mix of asking and guessing; but under what conditions should each strategy be employed? What are the costs and benefits for the askers, guessers, and the people of whom the explicit or implicit request is being made? Since even the act of asking a question can be revealing, how can we know when to disclose certain pieces of information about our preferences? Does asking or guessing work better in small or large groups? Is it more polite to guess or ask? How does "tell" culture differ from ask and guess cultures? Does asking for consent (instead of guessing about whether or not the person consents) in sexual situations kill the mood?
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