When You're Giving Advice, You've Got Control of the Situation

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Many of us are uncomfortable with silence, aren't we? When you change and you ask a question, suddenly things get a bit more ambiguous. We all tend to twitch into that solution-giving advice-providing mode when we're in giving advice - even though it's probably the wrong advice. You've asked a question, but you've given control to them now to answer so they have control, they have the power and the conversation.

Michael Bungay Stanier: The Coaching Habit Michael is the bestselling author of The Coaching Habit*. In this episode, he teaches us the key coaching questions to help others improve. Quotes I think there are as many definitions for coaching as there are people selling coaching. —Michael Bungay Stanier Slow down on the advice giving, and stay curious just a little bit longer. —Michael Bungay Stanier That’s part of the nature of a system; as soon you start changing stuff, it starts pushing back. —Michael Bungay Stanier Your organization is a system, and the very nature of a system is to love its own system. —Michael Bungay Stanier You want people to become lazy coaches … lazy because you want the other person to be doing the work. When they’re doing the work, they’re actually unlocking their own potential … you’re helping them to learn, rather than teaching them. —Michael Bungay Stanier We’re all okay with saying no to the stuff we don’t really want to do, but do we have the courage and discipline to say no to the stuff we do want to do? —Michael Bungay Stanier Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.