Introduction

Narcissistic abusers are aware that they can use shame and guilt to make victims feel badly about minor actions taken that upset them. By shaming and guilting victims, they will look within to correct their behavior and thus blame and shame themselves. The narcissistic abuser will look to groom victims to become the best source of supply as victims work on themselves to please the perpetrator. Victims who already may feel shameful about themselves will get stuck in a feedback loop of self blame hoping to one day be good enough for the narcissist and stop the abusive treatment.