I think a lot of the resentment might come from our perception of how things should be or some sort of expectation or manual we have for our spouse. Sometimes we're not taking responsibility for our emotions and we feel like he has control over us. I just want to say it's very normal to feel it but you absolutely can choose to just kind of ask yourself. Getting out of resentment if it's something you want is totally available to anyone who has the desire for sure.