The Negativity of Being Securely Attached

The negative cycle comes to all of us, even securely attached people. The first wave that's so vicious is despite all those efforts, you get the feedback that you felt. It's one thing to fail and be left alone; it's another to say you suck because you failed. A lot of withdraws will feel confused. They're like, wait a second. I know in my heart what I'm trying to do. And you tell me I don't care. You tell me this doesn't matter. Like that's not my reality. So how do I learn that flexibility? Right. We want people to move closer to the center to be more securely attached but we recognize they're