Can We Just Pause and Tolerate That Unforgiveness?

"There is just a real sense of feeling safe to do this that way," she says. "I really want to echo just what we were saying earlier about being gentle and really, it's, it's a huge learning curve." 'It can hurt even deeper sometimes because it's like, I just revealed my heart to you and then you just attacked me,' the therapist adds. "'If someone's attacking, they're coming from a hurt place' It's so important,'" he writes. ''This is where your partner is so much more likely to help us get back on track.'"