The Importance of Forbearance

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I could not show her the same tolerance I really found it very unbearable but actually my husband did not not speaking to her as well and they were estranged when she died so I think that was a kind of untenable relationship. When you're in the throes of it of the manipulation and the acrimony it's very hard to see beyond that, especially if your parents know what your buttons are. That becomes very very toxic and it can be very abusive and often is. But certainly with the passage of time and the benefit of distance have enabled me to see my mother in a very different different way. She takes enormous enormous pleasure in nature even though she doesn't love being outside in

Welcome to the Wintering Sessions with Katherine May.

This week Katherine chats to Elissa Altman, author of ‘Motherland’ and more.

Katherine finds Elissa in that pre-Christmas zone, which serves as the perfect jumping-off point for a very upfront, candid and fascinating conversation on family. Specifically, Elissa's relationship with her mother. Like every family, it's a relationship which is unique and comes with its own inimitable history, and as such, informs where the two find themselves this present day, and it's a wonderful thing to hear Elissa talk openly about all that is contained within this box of memories and present moments. In addition, Elissa catches up with Katherine about the New England Winter, being a feeder, her relationship with her father, mental wellbeing, getting out of the 'swamp' via nature and its grounding properties, rediscovering and reprocessing her musical proclivities, and all with a real glint and sparkle.

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