Coaching Question: Are You Hanging On?

Are you hanging on so tight to what you have that you can't grab what's waiting for you?

I've watched this play out with dozens of clients. They work hard, build something solid, then white-knuckle it into the ground. The irony? That death grip creates the exact scarcity they're trying to avoid.

Twenty years into this podcast, I've learned something counterintuitive. The path to more often requires letting go of what you've got. Not destroying it. Not abandoning years of work. Just completing it and moving forward.

Featured Story

I started the Daily Boost five days a week on January 1st, 2006.

People ask if that was some master plan. Big goal. Fresh start. New year energy.

Nope.

My first wife died on December 6th after a terminal cancer diagnosis. I took a couple weeks to grieve, lifted my head up, and thought, "Well, what am I going to do now?"

May as well go back to the podcast thing. May as well start January 1st.

That's it. That's the origin story.

Sometimes the biggest moves forward come right after the hardest moments of letting go.

Important Points

Holding onto what you have often keeps you from getting more. Your fear of ending up with less becomes the very thing holding you back from the abundance you want.

Most people describe scarcity as not having enough of what they want. But I'd challenge you to consider whether your death grip on what you already have is the real scarcity problem.

Time is your friend in this kind of transformation. People expect instant results, but real change takes time to marinate. Every day you move a little closer, but only when you let go of the scarcity mindset.

Memorable Quotes

"I'm like a pitbull with a ribeye. I hold on. The favorite iteration, but it gets in the way of bigger change."

"What if the only requirement for getting what you want is to let go of what you have now? What if your path to success opens up the minute you release?"

"You don't lose all the work you've done. You don't lose the knowledge. You don't lose the IP. It's just not active in your life anymore."

Scott's Three-Step Approach

Ask yourself honestly: Am I hanging on so tight I can't get what's really out there waiting for me? Identify what you're white-knuckling that might be holding you back from bigger change.

Complete something instead of iterating it forever. You don't have to destroy years of work. Just seal it, put it over there, and let it become something else while you move forward.

Give yourself time to marinate. This isn't an instantaneous transformation. Move a little closer each day toward the abundance you want, but understand that real change takes longer than you think.

Chapter Notes

[00:00] - Twenty years of the Daily Boost and the unexpected origin story

[03:45] - What abundance and scarcity really mean beyond the surface

[06:20] - The pitbull problem: when holding on becomes the issue

[09:15] - The coaching question that makes everyone start taking notes

[12:40] - Why letting go is the path to getting more

[15:30] - Time is your friend (even when you hate this answer)

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