The Hot Cold Empathy Gap is when we fail to predict how our emotions are going to affect our decision-making in a different emotional state. Dealing with low capacity days starts off with accepting the fact that we're going to have low-capacity days. Our energy levels are going to fluctuate and even on those bad days, we're still going to be able to do things to help make us feel better.
One of the ideas that I was presented with during the pandemic was that of surge capacity - this is the idea that we all have reserves of emotional energy that we can call on when we’re in a crisis situation. And this was an important idea for people to grasp as the pandemic wore on because people were finding themselves depleted. Despite having been able to handle everything they eventually came to a wall where they didn’t have any more to give.
This is an important concept, but not specifically what I want to talk about today because what I want to talk about is what I gleaned from this idea. That we because we have surge capacity, we also have a normal capacity. This seems like a fairly obvious point, but also one I think that a lot of us with ADHD often overlook. Despite everything I know about planning it is still far too easy for me to try and squeeze too much into one day. And this isn’t just in terms of how much time I have or how much energy I have, but just how much I can reasonably take on.
In today’s episode, we’re going to be exploring this idea of capacity and how it can impact our ability to get anything done. We be looking at what we can do on these days and how we can actually use them to help ourselves to recover.
Feel free to ask me a question on my Contact Page
or
Support me on Patreon
Find the show note at HackingYourADHD.com/LowCapacity
This Episode’s Top Tips
- We can hit low capacity when we’ve been pushing too hard for too long. Our capacity differs from our energy levels in that we can think of it as the total amount of energy we have for a day. Having a low capacity means that we’re not recovering and that when we do recover we’re only coming back to a low base rate of energy.
- When we’re at low capacity we need to slow down and focus on the things we can do - this means prioritizing and thinking about ways we can apply “both-and” thinking where we accept reality and how we can function within it.
- A great way to help build back up our capacity is creating some accountability around our self-care tasks so that we actually follow through with those intentions.
