Are You Looking Away When You're Looking at Someone?

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If we're making eye contact, we're producing oxytosen and so our bodies focus on connection. If i ask you a hard, intellectual question, your brain goes, stop connecting and try to think of the answer. When someone is not listening to you in they are probably trying to process some answer they're coming up with. That's o mak sense youo i do i look away? Like right now, i'm looking away when i'm trying to let gather a thought. Yes, if i'm looking at some one's cues, it distracts from another train of thought that i have. So i often, like when i' have something to say, i'm not

The Minimalists speak with Vanessa Van Edwards about communication problems and the signals we send to others through our body language, facial expressions, word choices, and vocal inflections, and they answer the following questions:

How do I overcome the feeling of being chronically misunderstood? (02:38)

What are the four channels for cues? (03:18)

What is the importance of congruence in our communication? (04:10)

How are we most commonly misunderstood? (07:09)

What are warm and confident words? (07:50)

How do we organically incorporate mirroring into our communication? (12:45)

How can you tell if someone is actively listening to you? (15:04)

What are the two misconceptions about eye contact? (16:57)

What is “Resting Bothered Face”? (20:15)

What is “phubbing”? (24:14)

What are “invitation cues”? (27:23)

As a teenager living under my parents’ roof how do I tactfully address the conflict arising between their values and beliefs and my own that are continuously evolving at my age? (30:10)

What is “openness”? (32:24)

What is the “Platinum Rule”? (36:25)

Why is nonverbal communication so powerful? (38:00)

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