Trama - A Shitty Experience or Trampa?

Can you distinguish between trama and just a shitty experience? And how, you know, forgetting? Because i think you explain this well. The real onch line of the book is that you need both unison. It's only when that balance between forgetting and memory is thrown off kilter do you start saying negative consequences. If people understand that better they might be able to turn down their fear and rage.