The Importance of Accepting the Possibility of a Turndown for Sex

In his book, the elephant in the brain, he talks about like the point of conversation is to show off our toolkit of skills. And so if you ask me like, what is the precise point at which I object? I'm not sure that's sort of part of what I'm figuring out by talking to Robin. But in terms of signaling, I wish I could better recall the conversation and talk about it, I just don't recall the details of it. So such that there almost seems to be something self-deceived to me about the signaling explanation. They don't believe it when the thing is actually happening. It's just the thing that can pull out when they're