Bill Eddy is a licensed therapist, attorney, and leading expert on high-conflict personalities and dispute resolution. He is the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute and has developed widely used communication strategies such as the BIFF method. Eddy is the author of numerous influential books, including his newest release, Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them – How to Stop Them. Drawing from his dual background in law and mental health, he equips professionals and the public alike with practical tools to manage conflict and reduce drama in legal, workplace, and personal settings.
In our conversation we discuss:
(00:00) – Who are the five types of people?
(03:04) – How do you know if someone is a narcissist?
(09:57) – Why should someone care about this?
(13:17) – What is the most common way people respond?
(16:15) – How are adult bullies different than kids?
(21:17) – Is bullying caused by being bullied?
(25:46) – How do we identify gray area people?
(33:32) – Does this also apply to gray area types?
(36:19) – How do we deal with these people?
(46:02) – Can people with high conflict traits change?
(52:50) – Should we build alliances to handle conflict?
(56:33) – Do these strategies apply to love life?
(59:57) – How can someone rebuild confidence afterward?
(01:08:43) – Do we over-prioritize controllable relationships?
(01:11:13) – How can someone heal from toxic dynamics?
Learn more about Bill:
High Conflict Institute: https://highconflictinstitute.com/
Books:
https://www.amazon.com/Types-People-Ruin-Your-Life/dp/0143131362
https://www.amazon.com/Our-New-World-Adult-Bullies/dp/0757325106
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