Don't try and like talk about and fix the sex during the sex. It's also okay to not be in a good space sexually. I think we also put so much pressure on ourselves. We need to fix the problem, but sometimes it's just sit in the problem and allow it. If you feel like you're in a sexual rat, don't try and fix it too quickly. Like understand that there's something that needs to be processed and allow yourself that time to process.
Sex is a normal part of human life, but it can also get complicated–whether you’re having it or not! The way we approach, think, and engage with our sexuality varies widely our culture, community, identity, and more. But one thing we can all strive for is healthy and safe sex. Siphumeze Khundayi and Tiffany Mugo are two sex educators and the co-founders of HOLAAfrica (HOLAA!) a Pan-Africanist digital platform that focuses on creating spaces that deal with safe sex and pleasure. Today they share insights on the kinds of mental and emotional tools we can turn to in order to have great sex, why it’s ok to take small steps on your sexual journey, and why it’s important to take ownership of your pleasure.