Can Love Be a Choice?

Lex: My ex boyfriend has been doing everything to be a better version of himself in the hopes that I decide to try again and make it work. He says that everything that's not working out is a choice and can be fixed with mutual effort. However, even though he's an amazing person and loves me very much, I can't bring myself all my feelings to love him in the same way. Are my expectations of love unrealistic? And should I just be choosing a loving stable kind person like him? If it makes it on the podcast, please keep this anonymous.