Can We Just Make a Step Forward Towards My Purpose Together?

i'm still tied emotionally, spiritually and physically to people. And the reason i can't go after who i'm s'posed to be with is because if you knew what i was still tied, this is what you don't talk about on your first day. Many of you got married and don't even know your partner's past. All you did invite somebody in so you could hurt them. So what i do pass to might thank you. What i do? How do i get in uninvolved?