In this episode of the Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into part two of Navigating Sexual Brokenness in Your Relationship, where Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen explore how to move beyond surface-level struggles toward true healing and intimacy. From overcoming shame and addiction to rebuilding trust and emotional connection, this episode is packed with raw truths and hard-earned insights. The Doerksens challenge common narratives around sexuality, break down where addictive behaviors come from, and share how they rewired their relationship from the inside out. Whether you're in the thick of healing or ready to take your relationship to the next level, this one’s a must-listen.
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Timestamps & Key Moments:
- 00:00:27 – Intro: Brandon and Caitlyn kick things off with a behind-the-scenes moment and introduce part two of the sexual brokenness conversation.
- 00:03:34 – Your sexuality is meant to bring you closer: Brandon reframes sexuality as a powerful tool for connection, not destruction, and why most couples miss this.
- 00:04:59 – Escaping Pain Through Counterfeits: They explore how people turn to porn, fantasy, and objectification when they don’t feel safe enough to pursue real intimacy with their spouse.
- 00:07:12 – Brandon's turning point: What changed when Brandon finally committed to healing in 2019-2020.
- 00:13:16 – Fantasy vs. Authentic Sexuality: Caitlyn explains the massive difference between indulging in fantasy and cultivating real, connected sexuality within marriage.
- 00:22:00 – Seeking Approval Through Sex: Brandon explains how many men chase approval through sexual attention, often choosing fantasy because it feels "safe" compared to facing possible rejection from their spouse.
- 00:32:54 – You Weren’t Born Wired This Way: How cultural, spiritual, and childhood narratives “wired” men to objectify, and how unplugging those wires leads to freedom.
- 00:39:10 – Intentional Media Detox: The couple breaks down how consciously removing visual media helped rewire Brandon’s thought patterns and eliminated curiosity-based temptation.
- 00:42:31 – The Power of Being Known: They discuss how emotional intimacy and feeling truly “known” by your partner brings healing to sexual brokenness.
- 00:48:01 – Facing the Pain Is the Only Way Through It: Avoiding the pain doesn’t work—freedom only comes when you face it head-on, together.
- 00:50:46 – Join the 8-Week Experience: Brandon and Caitlyn share their upcoming 8-week course, which teaches the exact process they used to rewire their marriage and experience deep connection and sexual wholeness.
