Avoiding the Emotion of Shame

How do we know what's the wrong choice and what's the right choice, based on our emotions? This is where things get tricky. If i'm trying to avoid feeling ashamed of myself, so let's say i feel ashamed when i go to a party because i'm short and, like, five foot two,. So what can i do to avoid that shame? I just never go to aparty. And that feels good over the course of that day. But avoiding the emotion of feeling, avoiding an emotion of shame, is not a good strategy to live a fulfilling life. Sometimes we see this in careers too, wherelike you felt like a failure, so you've got to make